Anger Control

[McDoogle]

How do u personally control your anger?

Have you got anger problems at all?

To what extent is your anger?

Have you ever lashed out on someone and seriously hurt them or you?

I'm asking because i my self have an anger problem and i need some advice form other people from the same experiences.

[Ulquiorra]

How do u personally control your anger?

Have you got anger problems at all?

To what extent is your anger?

Have you ever lashed out on someone and seriously hurt them or you?

I'm asking because i my self have an anger problem and i need some advice form other people from the same experiences.

1) i either drive (which relaxes me) or work out (which focuses my attention somewhere else)

2) i have anger issues with my mom, but that's getting better. I also have a baaaaaad case of road rage, as today's drivers suck >.>

3) sometime's it's pretty bad. I once got so mad i had an adrenaline rush and couldnt feel my arms at all. I probably couldve punched through glass and not felt it at that point.

4) no. I broke a car window once, but never hit anyone out of anger.

[spacecat]

How do u personally control your anger? Well I used to do kickboxing which was great, I really recommend something like that (as long as you hit a bag and not ppl). I also play guitar or drums, it's a really good way to get the feelings out in a positive way.

Have you got anger problems at all? I get too emotional sometimes and say things I don't mean cos I'm upset/angry. I'm good at saying sorry and realising when I'm wrong at least but it can still be damaging.

To what extent is your anger? I feel pissed off nearly all the time, I try to be positive but life just doesn't always go your way. I think I'm learning to deal with it though.

Have you ever lashed out on someone and seriously hurt them or you? I've done stupid things to myself but so far I've only hurt people with words luckily. Not that it's good but if I hit someone I love I dunno how I could live with myself. I'm more the type to hurt myself and have lame attention seeking suicide attempts.

I'm asking because i my self have an anger problem and i need some advice form other people from the same experiences. Just try and stay positive no matter how hard it seems. Find a hobby or outlet for your anger that is positive like a sport or instrument.

[aznxenocide]

1. I just let is steam for a bit, and then I do something that can take my mind off of it. Pirating music, watching a couple episodes of Scrubs, Photoshopping...

2. I wouldn't say so.

3. I like to think that when I'm pissed off, I'm usually justified in being pissed off. As such, I usually feel more vindicative than actually angry.

4. Sort of lashed out. Rarely physically. Good luck with your thing though, McD.

5. Find something that takes your mind off of it...drawing, composing, animating, working out, laughing, etc.

[Jaws]

Doogie you worries me :(

There was a time in my life when I was angry with the whole world!!! I would lash out at people for no reason at all ( mostly in words ), and I was constantly putting my life in danger. See, everytime I let anger take over me, I'd go out on the streets to race as a way to blow off stream, putting myself and others in danger. It went on for a few years until I found a goal in life : music!!! I don't know what your situation is, but to me my anger problem has alot to do with depression. You might want to find out what the source is first, to be able to deal with the problem.

Ulq, Spacecat & Xeno pretty much gave all the advice I can think of .... those are good advices. Exercise helps alot when you need to blow off steam, join a group or something, talk to people when you're angry ... and stay away from alcohol ( been there, done that ... bad idea!!! ) Try to live a healthy lifestyle : Eat well ( Vitamin B-complex helps with stress ), sleep well ( not getting enough sleep makes you irritable ), go out and spend time with friends ( join a sports group/club, take some sort of lesson ... meet new people, it takes your mind off unpleasant things and away from your daily routine which might be the cause of your problems ) ... Whatever you do, just don't bottle everything up, it leads to self destruction :(

It took me awhile, but I realized that life is too short to be wasting on anger. What is the point of being angry? Life still goes on, your own choice if you want to spend your day in anger, or live it to the fullest.
You must first want to help yourself, before others can help you ... keep that in mind.

[Riekie]

How do u personally control your anger?
erm..I sometimes do certain things because of all the stress and alll. I also go to my room (when I am not already there) and play vééry sad or aggressive music.

Have you got anger problems at all?
Hell yes! My mom and brother can make me soo mad..oow and my dad too..>.< actually..everything can tick me off, even if it's the slightest thing..doesn't matter if it's meant bad or not.
To what extent is your anger?
it's quite bad..I can throw away 6 years of friendship in one not so bad conversation (but bad for me at that moment)..and don't care if they live or die...I stop all contact. I also do some pretty extreme things when I am having 'a moment of weakness' which unfortunately..happens alot.

Have you ever lashed out on someone and seriously hurt them or you?
I lash out at everything and everyone! My mom and brother are usually the victim when they bully me but strangers aswell. I can't stand cyclers (sp?) who don't put their hand out when going into a different direction..it's seriously pisses me off! I also fight with my brother (physically) alot..but I never give the first hit! If he starts hitting or kicking me I finally snap and do the same to him..too bad though that he's 100x stronger than me..

I say...if you need to calm down when in a rage..go to your room (if you're at home) and play loud music..it can cool you down.

[McDoogle]

Well i do go to kick boxing to help release it, and im getting a punching bag in the garage to help some more, i have a councillor and a psychiatrist already, and i know the cause of it but it seems to be going in a viscous circle and getting worse each time.

To give you an example of that its like, As Ulquiorra said, he once had it so bad, he had a adrenaline rush and his arms went numb, That daily happens to me with my entire body over something small just as listening to some heavy rock music.

A main problem now is, although ive already got depression from it, its gotten 10 times worse and now its to the extent were, i want to kill the girl i love for hurting me., Not to mention, 2 out of 3 of my dreams about her have came true and the last one is me killing her.

Because of my past experiences of being discriminated by pretty much everyone, i ended up coming up with theories using logic through my dyspraxia. And I've had to watch my mother go into hospital 2 to 3 times a year and almost die, then by the one person i thought excepted me, i was suddenly treated like a piece of shit again. My anger reminds me of unimaginable strength and insanity such as Shirosaki, I cant even predict how ill act if it goes full pledged out.

[Riekie]

First..I am glad you've got help McDoogle..really glad.

Now..have you talked yo your psych about killing the girl and told him/her about your dreams..because that's almost crucial..
Pretty scary actually that those 2 dreams came true..please hope that the last one won't.

[McDoogle]

I haven't been able to talk to my psych about the dreams yet but I've talked about it with Paula my councillor at school.

My mam went through similar experiences a few years ago but it wasn't to the extent as mine is, she actually had an argument with the anger manegment councillor. People with Dyspraxia are known to have anger problems to begin with but im highly dyspraxic and I've been physically bullied all my life causing anger aswell.

Really, i don't think i can describe it :S

[Jaws]

I am sad to hear of your condition, and what you have been through. I cannot offer anymore advice since your case is very serious. Know this though : You choose your own path, what is in the past remains in the past. What you want for the future, you work for now. I hope that you will be able to find peace in your heart to forgive all the bad things that happened to you before. I know it's unfair, life is never fair. You should also know that you're not alone in the world, lots of people go through worst things in their lives than you, but we all deal with it the best we can. I pray that you will have enough will power to not go down the path of self destruction ( and hurting people who loves you along the way ) :(

[Slev]

How do u personally control your anger?
I just go relax somewhere. I've never really had my anger get the best of me, so if I do get angry I can usually deal with the situation pretty well. If I get very angry at something I just go to the gym, and I rarely go to the gym. :>

To what extent is your anger?
I've never experienced very extreme anger. Although, I do play hockey, so if something happens on the ice (tripping, slashing, etc.) I might get angry enough to hit the guy back and get a penalty.


Have you ever lashed out on someone and seriously hurt them or you?
Nope. The most I have even done was dent a wall from pushing a door open really fast. That was more from frustration than anger, though.

I'm asking because i my self have an anger problem and i need some advice form other people from the same experiences.
Sorry, I have no idea. D:

[McDoogle]

Easier said than done really, it becomes more difficult when its like its taunting you to do the thing you've wanted to do for almost your entire life and now u have no real reason to hold back. The reason i had before was i didn't want Kelly (girl i love) to see me at that point, Now she's the one i want dead. The only other thing keeping me going is the fact i know that others have gone through worse than me and if they have gotten through it, why cant i?

But also i know people who have gone through what i have, or very similar anyway, bullying etc, and they've always released there's why fighting someone. Because I've had it over a longer period of time, had family tragedies along with several broken hearts and im dyspraxic, It seems to be the only option to me unless i take anti-depressants which my councillor suggested.

Eventually, if i don't sort it out, it will end up down the road of self-destruction, its the inevitable, Like i said, the more i try to suppress it the more it fails and comes back worse, at now that im at the point on which i never thought I'd be, wanting to kill Kelly with my own bare hands, i fear the worse causing more stress and more problems.

I have surprisingly strong will power which is partly the reason why i haven't just "let loose" yet. In fact its gotten to the point were i can actually control my moods/ emotions to a curtain extent, e.g. obsessiveness etc but because the anger is so great, i can only hold back so much and everyone has there limits. Kelly has crossed mine.

Before i was able to have moments on which i was able to have clear thoughts and think without the anger tension feeling inside me, now, its continuously there making the opportunity for releasing it greater.

[emoloz]

How do u personally control your anger?

I normally have a little shout at the person that anoys me, scream in a pillow, play loud music and dance to it. Or i just tell someone else of my problem and somehow it seems to fix it.

Have you got anger problems at all?

I don't think so though i can strange panic attacks when i get really angry. I think i used to because i used to just rage at people so bad i was literally screaming in their face. I think i bottle my anger up too much when its better to let it out.

To what extent is your anger?

I've never hit anyone or anything like that but i have screamed in someones face before i was that angry at them. I don't usually do that now i just tend to shout back and brush it off a bit. Guess my anger has grown up and thus become more controlled.

Have you ever lashed out on someone and seriously hurt them or you?

Verbally i guess yes. I don't think my friends been the same since i had this screaming go at her but shes become sorta strange round me like daren't say anything to piss me off thought it wouldn't bother me. I never lashed out on myself i mean i may have hit a wall and hurt my arm a little but nothing out of the norm of anger.


All you have to do is find a way that suits you to get rid of it. If talking does it find some random person and speak hours about how you feel. If its kick boxing and that works out go for it. Anythign that will let it escape and not well up helps. If you need to talk to someone i don't mind volunterring to help i love hearing of others problems xD DR LOZ IS HERE TO HELP XD

[Shinrin]

How do u personally control your anger?[

Hmm... I suppose i usually turn it agains myself and keep it inside like that, or think about the cercumstances.



Have you got anger problems at all?



Not unless Keeping it inside is a big problem, or the fact that i do think about how people might get hurt alot, and where it might hurt more then other places...



To what extent is your anger?


It's hard to tell corse i havn't ever allowed myself to lose controle to anger, so yeah i suppose i controle it pretty well. Only once during the past 8 years been close to the area where i stop thinking about the consequences of a wrong move.



Have you ever lashed out on someone and seriously hurt them or you?


Not unless my brother count and thats like... 8-10 years ago i used to lash out at him.
But i don't recall ever hurting any of us enough to go to the hospital:rolleyes:

[Zelos]

How do u personally control your anger? i bottle it up inside :/ ya, not the best thing to do and i find i have extremely poor anger control. i used to just let it out on my "friends" but theyre not really my friends anymore because of it. now im practically afraid to talk to people when im angry XP dunno if theyll just abandon me or something like everyone else. if im in the right mood, ill play Halo to take my anger out on things (video games are good for this).

Have you got anger problems at all? i definitely do have anger problems... though i didnt really ever get angry before i moved from my hometown 5 years ago. now i have more anger than i ever thought id have. lots of things just trigger it these days and sometimes i dont even need a trigger. im just... angry :/

To what extent is your anger? i have enough self-control to not actually hit people, but i can be very nasty with words when im upset. ive written and spoken a lot of not-very-nice things when im in a bad mood. not proud of it, but i do it anyways.

Have you ever lashed out on someone and seriously hurt them or you? only in the emotional way. ive never been much of a physical person but my words have hurt others many many times :/

[speedphantom]

How do you personally control your anger?

When I get angry I just try to think it through. I think why am I angry, what is the point of being angry? Most of the time I get angry at my dad since he does things to annoy me. So I end up slamming doors, smashing my fist on the table, muttering under my breath, swearing. I guess I don't let myself get out of control. Sorry I can't really give any good advice for this =(.

I think the best way is to channel the anger and energy into something creative or physical as people have mentioned before. Like hitting something which doesn't fight back like your kickboxing with the bag. However, violent means of getting rid of your anger might make you a more violent person which is unhealthy. Going for a jog I find always clears my mind.

Have you got anger problems at all?

Not really. I've had quite a sheltered life with a good upbringing so I have very little anger when I do get angry. For my emotions, just using a scale of -10 - 0 - 10. -10 being really bad, 10 being really good.

I am usually -3 to 10.

To what extent is your anger?

Not to a great extent. To be honest the things I get angry over are just silly little things which I probably shouldn't get angry about.

Have you ever lashed out on someone and seriously hurt them or you?

Not really no. There have been times I feel like hitting my brother who annoyed me but I didn't.

Best of luck with your life though. You're really amazing to deal with everything so well. You'll always have people to help you out here so don't hesitate if you have any other problems ;)

[Rain]

I don't get angry, and i've never had problems controlling my anger. Whenever something pisses me off i just talk about it, either to another person or myself (Yeah I'll talk to myself). Sometimes it'll make it worse but usually it helps, but don't keep anything bottled up, it's unhealthy.

[Llama]

How do u personally control your anger?

I listen to tranquil music.

To what extent is your anger?

To the extent where I only rely on instinct.

Have you ever lashed out on someone and seriously hurt them or you?

I've lashed out my brother. Someone always ends up holding me down so no one gets hurt. Though I've almost broken the hold a few times. But by then I calm down a bit.

I'm asking because i my self have an anger problem and i need some advice form other people from the same experiences.

I won't be able to help you until I get help. :p

I'm so nice and yet so fragile.

[ezxx]

1. Whatever makes me mad, I try to forget it as soon as possible by way of music, browsing the net, going out and doing something. Or I just try to work out the situation in my head

2. For the most part I don't get angry and even if I do I rarely ever react emotionally and just try to calm myself down before I do something rash. Complete opposite of what I used to do in the past

3. Not that high

4. Not recently. I got in fights when I was younger, but I never hurt someone badly because fights don't last that long and there's always someone to stop the fight.

It depends on the situation because emotions can't always be kept under control, and it depends on the type of personality you have. Not everyone can become laid back, so the best you can do is to always reason through whatever situation you're in and think of consequences, that should keep you in check. Also keeping your anger in is not a good idea. It's great that you talk to people online, but ask for some advice from someone you can see face to face, every day. That would be more reassuring